How To Be A Classy Chick

So I am talking to a friend of mine....well I was actually eavesdropping really whilst he was complaining to my other friend about the lack of classy ladies in his social group. Suddenly I am thinking back at all the guys I have heard saying they want to date or even start relationships with classy women.

 For some reason, being called “classy” is like the ultimate compliment that can be given to a woman. It beats being just sexy or hot and I myself, well I have never really endeavoured to be classy as it never occurred to me before now. I never even thought about it at such depth until now, so what I am asking myself is, what does it really mean being classy? So your girl took to the Internet to find a definition of a classy woman and my goodness there are so many different opinions. So we will have to settle for my little knowledge of this subject. 

           

Hair

You can identify a classy woman by her ability to take time out to groom herself well. If you look at a lady from head to toe, her hair should look neat and well kept. There is no way it can be looking like she just rolled up out of bed! Yeah I know some times we all have that lazy day but surely you can at least take care of your hair whether it is a weave, permed or natural. You got to be well greased, shampooed and combed

Hands and Feet

Your hands, nails and toes have to be on point. As in clean and groomed, with nails long or short, polished or unpolished. But.....your polish cannot be peeling off and My Gosh, I myself find this so hard to keep up. It is like those stuff are designed to chip every other 3 seconds! “Crusty pie” feet are prohibited and chipping toes polish is illegal!

Personal Hygiene

No matter what you been told, honey, class cannot ever coexist with dirt, bad smell and unappealing habits such as burping, farting, spitting in public and so on. Condone any of these nasty habits and you do it at the expenditure of your own feminine aura.

Knowledge, Wit and Sense of Humour

A classy woman has to have Knowledge, Wit, and Sense of Humour – there is no way around it – class is not real class if you have no interesting thoughts, opinions, views or observations. Being of good class requires the ability to share and challenge ideas and be an engaging company.

Subtlety

A classy woman does not feel the need to flaunt every asset she possesses and will always leave you with the impression of "I wonder what...” If a woman has a nice body and she feels she has to just about be naked to make sure you see, the whole ‘if you got it, flaunt it’ mentality, not only is she not classy, she is insecure, especially if she would not dare to dress the same way in front of her parents. A classy woman will always leave the right of seeing her assets to the special man in her life. Suddenly I am scrutinizing how I dress and ask myself; does a woman have to advertise to every man on the planet what her body looks like to feel beautiful? If so, what really is left for the special man in her life to see exclusively? Looking stylish and sexy yet respectable is a requirement to be classy. Don’t underestimate the effect of accessorizing properly. Flattering colours and modest cut tops with decent fitting. Nothing that looks like she is at risk off bursting out off if she bends over. It is all about being subtle.  A subtle woman has style; she dresses sexy but does not look trashy when going out; she puts a small amount of perfume and make-up that is subtle and not about to drop off her face. Trying too hard, my lovelies, is not classy, neither is begging for attention.

Attitude

I can't stress how necessary it is to have decorum, confidence, education, culture and elegance. A classy woman is in touch with her feminine nature. This part is so overlooked by us females or most times we slip up. You will find it is not always necessary to challenge men and to compete with men at every possible turn; she enjoys pleasing her special man without feeling ashamed of it, and is proud to be a woman. A classy woman recognizes the differences between men and women and accepts those differences as simple laws of nature. Therefore you can't be hating men, and is not overly pessimistic about falling in love and enjoying amazing romance. Even if you're not in education, it is good to read and educate yourself. Learn about other peoples' cultures and understand how to relate with people of various backgrounds. The art is to be open-minded and respectful to all. If you don't know how, simply ask or just keep quiet. Your confidence should put you at ease and relieve you of any desire or need to validate yourself to your company.

Modesty

 In order to succeed in being a classy lady, you should not feel obliged to run around and tell everyone how smart and successful you are, as this need to validate yourself is a clear sign of insecurity and lack of class. A classy woman lets her actions prove to others who she is, rather than deafeningly loud words and she is not pressed to announce her “status” to everyone.

Anger Management and Pride

Now this next bit is like super important as we as women tend to mess this bit up almost all the time! A classy woman knows how to get angry the “right” way. Who would think there is a "right" way to get annoyed!! A classy girl does not go “nuts,” abusive or violent and start beating her chest or chucking dishes. Why? Well it is not because she is perfect or emotionally dead! No, she simply knows that there is always a better option – to simply walk away from a bad situation rather than raise her blood pressure or break nails over other peoples' loser antics.

OK so some of these stuff, you would think is common sense but please believe that no, not all this is common to some woman, classy or not. Being a classy woman clearly requires some hard work and My Gosh, it is not all easy! It truly is a way of life you have to adapt to. Before now I never considered the need to be classy, but as I am getting older and the desire to be sexy or "hot" is no longer suffice. 

Suddenly being surrounded by the chatter of classiness in females did I start look at myself in depth. Not only do you need to exude class as a person but also everything else in reference to you, for instance your Facebook or My-space etc has to be done the correct way. If your pictures or attitude on these kind of social networks come across even remotely trashy, then you will be considered as trashy before people even meet you thus defeating your whole purpose. (So yeah, I personally have done a lot of deleting!) 

The most comforting thing about this subject is that nobody is born classy. It is something that one can acquire and hone into near perfection. I suppose not all is lost where the key is to truly love and respect yourself, and believe me when I say, this is MY aim!

Love, Peace and Watermelon seeds