Food for fort 50

The choice is simple.
Learn to evolve or prepare to dissolve.

Power Filled Self Revelations

I prayed for change, so I changed my mind.

I prayed for guidance and learned to trust myself.

I prayed for happiness and realized I am not my ego.

I prayed for peace and learned to accept others unconditionally.

I prayed for abundance and realized my doubt kept it out.

I prayed for wealth and realized it is my health.

I prayed for a miracle and realized I am the miracle.

I prayed for a soul mate and realized I am the One.

I prayed for love and realized it's always knocking, but I have to let it in."

~Jackson Kiddard

Claiming your Queendom

Realise that you cannot expect to co-rule a man's kingdom if you have not mastered your own queendom yet.

This has to be the statement of the year for all women!

1. Read it!
2. Absorb it!
3. Understand it!
4. Implement it!

Ok!? Good! 
You know when you ask a love sprung woman about her significant other half and she replies, “Omgosh! I have finally found happiness and peace like! he totally completes me! He makes me a better person like!” *Annoying Brittany Spears voice*

YAWN!!!!!!
"Polite" thoughts that spring to my mind......"Good for you!" 
 I just want to hit her cheek with my elbow!



Why? Because I firmly believe that you have to measure your worth by what you see in the mirror and by the quality of your thoughts and actions. NOT and I scream that first word, NOT in another person, which is the most common mistake of us women.

Waiting for a man to define you into your ideal woman is lost chatter! Yes! I said it! It is talk that only lost and failed women mutter! 

Let us get this straight! Your parents begin the job of defining you as the future person you will one day grow into. NOT A MAN! They steer you through your earlier days of life with praise and rebuke. NOT A MAN! You and only you complete their job by coming into the woman you were destined to be. Again, I say, "NOT A MAN!" After a certain age, you determine who or what you become. By choosing the company you keep and by the lessons learnt from both good and bad experiences. Your definition in truth is now completely in your hands. 

Self completion starts and end from within

When you get with a man, THE MAN, your job changes and now the only people you are trying to define is the children you will one day have together. Because you are now fully fledged and whole within yourself enough to enter a life partnership with another human being, the only thing to do now is to bring definition to a new generation. Men have their own worries to worry about without taking on an incomplete woman that expects them to complete her! They are trying to find completion themselves without you sitting there snivelling in "lost and unloved person" lingo.


If you cannot even OWN your own happiness, your success, your fulfilment, your experiences, you goals, your passion, then please... enlighten me.....what or how exactly are you going to teach your children as a mother?  
Learn to be a Queen before you meet your King. Why?! Because once you meet your King, the next step is start training princesses and princes!
Kings and Queens understand each other because they are speaking that Royal talk. If you find yourself speaking to alot of frogs... Guess what!? You are probably speaking "Frogelese!" *Frog noise*

Waiting for a man to complete you is lost! What happens when he happens to pick up and leave? Are you going to become half again? Doomed to an existence of incompletion? Do you become the “no so better” edition of yourself again?

In my judgment, this is why we have so many messed up people in our society. People who have been nurtured by incomplete minded individuals who failed to pass on one of the fundamental lessons of life.

 Learn to be complete within yourself. 

If you are still seeking completion of your life, you have no business entering another persons’ life and definitely not beginning a life! Your self incompletion breeds insecurity, uncertainty and damage. Thus you will use others as an emotional and spiritual crutch. And the minute your happiness orbits around another other than yourself and God, life will be very detrimental for you.

I cannot personally tell you how to go about completing yourself but I can tell you how I am coming to terms with this lesson.

Embrace solitude

You probably hear people saying this all the time and assume it is really straightforward to do. In actual fact, it is not because as people we are societal creatures. It is hard to pull yourself out of this especially when you enjoy it so much. And even when you do manage it, you can be inclined to latch onto the first person you correspond with at long lengths of time. If you can't enjoy your own company, don't expect anyone else to either! Being able to take pleasure in your own company is so undervalued and yet so imperative. It is said that the loudest and most revelling revelations are heard only in silence. Plus knowing how to be independent is never a bad thing.

Meditate and Pray

With an increased time away from distractions, you will now be in a perfect position to look inwardly and upwards for answers and peace. Taking a short time each day to analyse how you react to daily situations can cause an immense shift in your stance of life. With that you can look back at the most pivotal experiences in your past and seek ways in how your life has been improved by certain experiences that otherwise scarred you emotionally. Through this and if you prefer prayer, inner peace is sure to follow. With that said future experiences can be handled with a better grip of reality and oneself.

Claim joy and love

Find what you enjoy do it! Discover what makes you happiest and surround yourself with it. I don’t mean buy out Dominoes on "Buy two for one Tuesday" and binge eat because you will be crying when the weight piles on and you can’t fit into them favourite jeans of yours. (I know this feeling too well! Don’t do it!) Decide your own goals and achieve them!

Sign up at the gym and get your healthy sexy on! Why wait for summer to look and feel good? Do it solely for you. Take more care with how you dress up each day.  Even if it is to slouch around the house, pick out decent attire.  Allow yourself to feel pretty whether or not you will be seen. I suggest keeping out your “crap” clothes to a minimum. “Crap things breed crap feelings”.

If you don’t feel beautiful enough without make-up on, try to wear one less product with each week. I swear, it is rejuvenating feeling good without all that pack on your face each day. Why wait for someone to tell you, that you are beautiful? Don't you have a mouth? Find a damn mirror and sort your self esteem out.

Literally do anything that makes you happy, not just momentarily but on a long term basis as well. Smother yourself with self love! (I kiss myself on the shoulder each morning) *Kanye shrug*

Educate your mind

Boredom breeds nothing positive so busy yourself positively. Read, read, read and read some more. Read novels, read self help books, watch more educational documentaries and less movies, read your Bible or Quran or whatever Holy book you are into. If you don’t like reading, listen to self help audios. I personally love learning something new everyday. Learn to play Chess, learn a language, or even pick up a hobby. If you haven’t got a hobby, your life is simply deprived.

Cherish your valuables

Obviously the first that you will do, if you are in a faith, is to draw closer to your Deity. A good rapport with your Deity will always keep you on a happy track. Next it is you. Cherish all of you, your time, your presence and your mind. Give less thought, attention and time to "things" unworthy.  Finally your loved ones. Cherish those you love and those who love you. Friends, family and so on. Let go of people who don’t really add to your life and pour all that extra love into the few people that do. By understanding people’s energy you will have a sharper sense of who and what energy you welcome into your life.

Have love in order to show love and in turn receive love. 

Most of life’s joy can be found in the good you do for others and the selfless love you are able to show.

This is my personal list so it may not work for you and you may not even agree to it. You are entitled to that opinion however worthless it is to me personally. It is a long process and it be.... difficult however everyone will one day benefit from it. Alas, I may not be a Queen as such yet but I am definitely a Princess in training! One day, shortly after meeting my King, I will begin my journey of training young princes and princesses. Not as a "senior" princess but as a Queen, complete from within.

Peace, love and watermelons seeds

P.s. This is not the rant of an angry feminist. I like guys!!! ALOT!!!
This blog APPLIES to men as well!

and I bought some watermelon today! :-D

Food for fort: I am not very sure

Women: Recognise that you cannot begin to dream about co-ruling a man's kingdom when you have not mastered the rule of your own queendom.

How to eat an elephant

Sitting in a cold library with my Egyptian colleague, satisfyingly warmed by the hot mugs of chai tea we were sipping on slowly. We sat musing and complaining about how stressful life was about to get for us in the near future with reports and presentations expected to fly out of our armpits on demand. Then he turns to me, looking straight into my eyes and he asks me the craziest question ever! (NO! Not "Will you marry me?!")

Him: Ghenz, How does one go about eating an elephant?

Me:.............. Are you that stressed? Elephants? Really? It has not come to that babe!

Him: (laughing) No! Silly! I don’t mean literally but imagine if you had to eat an elephant…how would you?

Me:……………..(with an expression you only see on the face of a blonde....retard, considering to make a run for the door).

I sat and pondered on his question for a full minute with what I can assume was a purely comical bewildered expression on my face because he burst at laughing.
In mind, I had pictured myself opening my mouth to an awkward width of at least 20metres and imagined myself swallowing an elephant ....WHOLE!
Retarded right? Yeah! I comprehended that ridden with shame half a second later.

Thankfully he spared me from further mental embarrassment and answered his own question.

Him: One bite at a time.

Me: ..........Ooooooohhhh yeeeaah! You are so right! But what has that got to with wor...... OMGosh! I get it!

The philosophical meaning of his question abruptly exploded into my mind like POW! *Jackie Chan Fly kick*

I literally heard the realisation drop between my ears.

Revelation

It is so easy to feel overwhelmed with the prospects of having ‘literally’ a million things to do in a short space of time.  As you glance over that 2 page ‘To do’ list, your blood pressure starts to peak and chunks of your hair starts to fall onto your shoulders slowly.

This is the point when your life, mental stability and hair depend on you endeavouring to relate the lesson of the ‘Elephant’ to your life. Otherwise do your family a favour and at least pick out your own coffin.

The same way I mentally attempted to swallow an elephant whole and was bitterly disappointed and ashamed. It is the same way you would feel if you viewed your life goals like so. The mere thought sets you up for an unavoidable disappointment.

If weighing ten stones is your life goal and you’re currently weighing sixteen stones, focusing on the whole six stones you will have to lose will stress your life! You can easily be overwhelmed by such a huge task. As time passes, you notice over and over that your goal still hasn’t been accomplished and you are still overweight but you don’t know what to do. That constant reinforcement of failure in your mind will not be healthy for them falling hair chunks! In fact that thought alone could either drive one to anorexia, bulimia or comfort eating or even suicide!!! (extreme but so possible). None of which are exactly good options.

Trying to focus on really big goals so much will only leave you feeling dissatisfied for long lengths of time and if not careful, your entire existence!

Stop being a Glutton

There is beauty in small bites, small goals! Smaller goals which will slowly but surely add up and result in you achieving your big goal. For now, you could aim to lose 5lbs a week.

Having such a small goal like that will give you something concrete to focus on whilst you slowly attain your big goal. Knowing what you need to do to get what you really want will put a sprig of inspiration into your every action. Have a step by step course of action that will strictly keep you on course.

Your life gratification will undoubtedly be a lot greater if your outlook of your life shifts and you are able to work towards a series of several small landmarks, rather than one colossal milestone that you are probably not even going to achieve.  Alas!! This is not an excuse to become waste and not aim for the sky, but rather looking to taking sky scraper climbing lessons and pilot courses to finally get to that point.  

So you have an elephant in mind that you intend to swallow, take your time! Stop thinking like such a damn glutton or you will choke. Take joy in the small bites until you get there.

p.s. If you still don't get the saying then *Kanye shrug*.... you may be one of those people that are destinied to choke on your elephant and die...or maybe you were born blonde.... or I simply DON'T know for you!

Peace, Love and Watermelon seeds

xx