Chrisette Michele - Goodbye Game

Her voice is so touching and inspirational!

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Portable Parking Spot

This is so damn smart!!

Food for Fort:3

When someone exits your life, let them go with class & style. They mattered, if only for a little while.

It's hard! I know!

How To Be A Classy Chick

So I am talking to a friend of mine....well I was actually eavesdropping really whilst he was complaining to my other friend about the lack of classy ladies in his social group. Suddenly I am thinking back at all the guys I have heard saying they want to date or even start relationships with classy women.

 For some reason, being called “classy” is like the ultimate compliment that can be given to a woman. It beats being just sexy or hot and I myself, well I have never really endeavoured to be classy as it never occurred to me before now. I never even thought about it at such depth until now, so what I am asking myself is, what does it really mean being classy? So your girl took to the Internet to find a definition of a classy woman and my goodness there are so many different opinions. So we will have to settle for my little knowledge of this subject. 

           

Hair

You can identify a classy woman by her ability to take time out to groom herself well. If you look at a lady from head to toe, her hair should look neat and well kept. There is no way it can be looking like she just rolled up out of bed! Yeah I know some times we all have that lazy day but surely you can at least take care of your hair whether it is a weave, permed or natural. You got to be well greased, shampooed and combed

Hands and Feet

Your hands, nails and toes have to be on point. As in clean and groomed, with nails long or short, polished or unpolished. But.....your polish cannot be peeling off and My Gosh, I myself find this so hard to keep up. It is like those stuff are designed to chip every other 3 seconds! “Crusty pie” feet are prohibited and chipping toes polish is illegal!

Personal Hygiene

No matter what you been told, honey, class cannot ever coexist with dirt, bad smell and unappealing habits such as burping, farting, spitting in public and so on. Condone any of these nasty habits and you do it at the expenditure of your own feminine aura.

Knowledge, Wit and Sense of Humour

A classy woman has to have Knowledge, Wit, and Sense of Humour – there is no way around it – class is not real class if you have no interesting thoughts, opinions, views or observations. Being of good class requires the ability to share and challenge ideas and be an engaging company.

Subtlety

A classy woman does not feel the need to flaunt every asset she possesses and will always leave you with the impression of "I wonder what...” If a woman has a nice body and she feels she has to just about be naked to make sure you see, the whole ‘if you got it, flaunt it’ mentality, not only is she not classy, she is insecure, especially if she would not dare to dress the same way in front of her parents. A classy woman will always leave the right of seeing her assets to the special man in her life. Suddenly I am scrutinizing how I dress and ask myself; does a woman have to advertise to every man on the planet what her body looks like to feel beautiful? If so, what really is left for the special man in her life to see exclusively? Looking stylish and sexy yet respectable is a requirement to be classy. Don’t underestimate the effect of accessorizing properly. Flattering colours and modest cut tops with decent fitting. Nothing that looks like she is at risk off bursting out off if she bends over. It is all about being subtle.  A subtle woman has style; she dresses sexy but does not look trashy when going out; she puts a small amount of perfume and make-up that is subtle and not about to drop off her face. Trying too hard, my lovelies, is not classy, neither is begging for attention.

Attitude

I can't stress how necessary it is to have decorum, confidence, education, culture and elegance. A classy woman is in touch with her feminine nature. This part is so overlooked by us females or most times we slip up. You will find it is not always necessary to challenge men and to compete with men at every possible turn; she enjoys pleasing her special man without feeling ashamed of it, and is proud to be a woman. A classy woman recognizes the differences between men and women and accepts those differences as simple laws of nature. Therefore you can't be hating men, and is not overly pessimistic about falling in love and enjoying amazing romance. Even if you're not in education, it is good to read and educate yourself. Learn about other peoples' cultures and understand how to relate with people of various backgrounds. The art is to be open-minded and respectful to all. If you don't know how, simply ask or just keep quiet. Your confidence should put you at ease and relieve you of any desire or need to validate yourself to your company.

Modesty

 In order to succeed in being a classy lady, you should not feel obliged to run around and tell everyone how smart and successful you are, as this need to validate yourself is a clear sign of insecurity and lack of class. A classy woman lets her actions prove to others who she is, rather than deafeningly loud words and she is not pressed to announce her “status” to everyone.

Anger Management and Pride

Now this next bit is like super important as we as women tend to mess this bit up almost all the time! A classy woman knows how to get angry the “right” way. Who would think there is a "right" way to get annoyed!! A classy girl does not go “nuts,” abusive or violent and start beating her chest or chucking dishes. Why? Well it is not because she is perfect or emotionally dead! No, she simply knows that there is always a better option – to simply walk away from a bad situation rather than raise her blood pressure or break nails over other peoples' loser antics.

OK so some of these stuff, you would think is common sense but please believe that no, not all this is common to some woman, classy or not. Being a classy woman clearly requires some hard work and My Gosh, it is not all easy! It truly is a way of life you have to adapt to. Before now I never considered the need to be classy, but as I am getting older and the desire to be sexy or "hot" is no longer suffice. 

Suddenly being surrounded by the chatter of classiness in females did I start look at myself in depth. Not only do you need to exude class as a person but also everything else in reference to you, for instance your Facebook or My-space etc has to be done the correct way. If your pictures or attitude on these kind of social networks come across even remotely trashy, then you will be considered as trashy before people even meet you thus defeating your whole purpose. (So yeah, I personally have done a lot of deleting!) 

The most comforting thing about this subject is that nobody is born classy. It is something that one can acquire and hone into near perfection. I suppose not all is lost where the key is to truly love and respect yourself, and believe me when I say, this is MY aim!

Love, Peace and Watermelon seeds

Rox - Rocksteady

Who knows about this girl?! Her voice is the absolute BOMB! I heard her playing over the speakers at work and could not help singing and rocking along. I swear, this half Iranian and half Jamaican songstress is only at the beginning of her peak. If she carries on bringing out hawt tunes like this she is going to make a firm supporter of me yet!

Food for Fort:2

Those that aim for the top can't be stopped!!

:-D

Nothing Lasts Forever

A happy girl, in love and feeling the warmth of blessings on her life, sits on the train home. She has just spent an amazing week away with her significant other and is still reeling with happiness. As she sits at the window pane, she waves at him, whilst he stands surrounded in snow, blowing her kisses. In this exact moment she feels a surge of emotion and wonders, “Could he be the one?” Because this one, he is different. A year on and not a bad word has been uttered between them, nor a raised voice. As in, to coexist is something so innate and natural, as if they knew each other in another life. She is his beginning and he is her end. Compatibility, love, mutual respect, attraction and supplementation are at its' best. Where there is enjoyment in just sitting in each other’s company in total and utter silence. In this moment she feels like she could do this for life.

And then the demons creep in........”Nothing lasts forever” they whisper coyly.

Unfortunately as annoying as it is for them to crash upon this moment uninvited, they are perfectly correct. Life and its experiences will change people and their attitudes. All of a sudden, the attributes that attracted you in the first place, may cease to be there in a few weeks, months or years. And from my point of view, this is ridiculously scary – as in – I could lose what little hair I have thinking about this!

Why you may ask. Because it takes time for me to love, but when I do, I love hard! HARDCORE!! Be it family, friend or lover, if Ghene truly loves you, you will definitely know! I enjoy giving love. I love that sensation when I look at someone, knowing that no matter what, this love is unconditional.

But as I have learnt, even unconditional love cannot make a relationship last forever. There are people that up till now, I still love certain people from my past so dearly and wholeheartedly but I don’t actually talk to them and may never will. You would think that because of this I would shy away from forming new relationships or opening my heart again to love so fiercely. You would think I would hold all at an arm’s length and break all relationships on my own terms to avoid heartache.

But where is the joy in that? How can you be possibly happy without loving another unrequited or not? If anything, failures in love drive should us to love more and to appreciate the special relationships and bonds we currently have. We don’t know where they may lead nor do we know when they will end if ever at all. The best we can do is take each day as it comes and love like it was our last day alive. This relationship may end next week but before it does, we must aim to get as much love as we can in there before parting. That way, for us, that love will still last forever in our hearts.

Learning to Listen!

I am not one to preach and Bible bash.... but this morning, sorry matie!! It's a Bible Thang!! I am currently in the midst of reading this brilliant book  named "Eat, Pray, Love" written by Elizabeth Gilbert. So there is this bit where the main character "Elizabeth" is crying, as in, sobbing her poor life out. She is in an unhappy marriage and for the first time in her entire life....... she sinks to her tired knees and speaks to a force unknown to her. God. Her prayer is not even significant. There was no jumping and screaming. No shivering nor speaking of tongues, just a simple conversation with God where she asks Him/Her what to do. After a few, her hysterics pass and she is overcome by a deep sense of silence..... and peace. And in the back of her mind, a voice simply tells her, "Go to bed."

We all have found ourselves in such bad and bitter situations which bring us to our knees....the perfect position to pray in. We bow there crying for God to direct us in what to do, in how to make this pain or situation go away. But when God simply replies with a "Go to bed" or "Go eat a cheeseburger", we dismiss it, lose faith and declare God to either be ignoring us, saying "No" or simply non-existent. It is at this point we dash, or discard God's answer to our problem.

You see, what I have noticed is that God...... is one funny individual. It is like every word or action from His/Her part is a test of our faith in His/Her divine word. Having faith in God is like baking a cake but only getting the ingredients  or being told what to do AS you go and not being given a list of what to do beforehand.
You ask for help and guidance. your answer is to go to bed, go and rest. In the morning, you will be strong, rested ready to take his next instruction but if you can't show obedience to this first instruction then you can't deal with what is yet to come.

I am laughing as I write this blog because, this is exactly ME! Yet again this early morning, I have another reason to have faith in every syllable God could possibly utter to me. His ways are beyond my imagination, beliefs, and mind.

An issue that occurred to me SOOOO long ago, where I was persecuted and accused wrongly! Where I lost the closest of my friends and I cried  in despair and was so DAMN confused at how and why all these bad things where happening to me! Out of nowhere the same friends that accused and berated me with such anger and disgust, re-connected with me in peace. I don't know if they are aware of their mistake or the pain and shame they inflicted on me back then neither do I care. I have simply moved on to greener pastures but even after I have gone through the hard process of true forgiveness do I now really and truly, finally feel "Justified!"
I realise that when some one prays, especially when an innocent person who is wrongly accused, prays... God will never fail in answering! It may take days, weeks or like my situation, years to see his direction but justification will always be the end result! But first it is imperative to listen to the first course of direction, whatever it might be. Even if it is a simple "Go to bed".

Love, Peace and God given Watermelon Seeds!
x

Food for Fort:1

The  will of God will never take you where the grace of God will not protect you. 

WORD!

Mary Mary - I Get Joy

What We Need

My people free
I wish to see,
It's Love and Peace
I think we need
Come together
And just let it be
FREE!!!

To smile upon
Tis unity,
That in God's mind
Was meant to be,
That you and me
Become a "we",
A bond so strong
For all to see,
To protect and build
Our community,
A voice for those
Called minority.
This job is for you
Not just for me
A team that consists
of a team called "we",
To combat the demons
in this society.

The solution here's
Not just to believe
But to forget about you
and put aside me
And simply let it be
Just about "we"